Oh, Kate. I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I hope you will find comfort in wonderful memories and the love you shared with your husband. Blessings to you.
You were so good to him, Kate - may you find comfort in knowing his time on this earth was enriched by your love and support straight through till his passing.
Dear Kate, I am so sorry for you loss....praying for you and your family in your time of sorrow. May you be surrounded with love and comfort sweet lady.
Oh my dear! I thought of you so much yesterday. I send you love and love and love. As you say, the trick is to keep breathing. And let all the hugs in. No more words, just holding you in my thoughts K xxxx
I am so sorry for your loss. Words always seem inadequate, but know that my family will be holding you and yours in prayer for strength, peace and wisdom in the days ahead.
Oh Kate, I am so very sorry. I am sending you my best thoughts for comfort. Please let others help you, take care of you, and give you whatever you need to ease your pain during this time. I am sure your husband is resting in peace and you were there for him, showing your love, until it was time for him to go. xoxo
So, so sorry Kate. I have come to love you and your husband, the rest of your family, and, of course, sweet George, through my visits here sharing,it all with us. I am humbled,that you are still sharing. Please absorb all the love being left here.
I'm so sorry. I just ache for you and your sons. Too soon ... way too soon.
You will be blessed for the care and the love you showed him during his next steps. One day, that will bring you comfort ... you did what you had to do and you did what he needed/deserved.
Pay attention over the next few days ... he will find a way to let you know that he made it safely to the other side. You might want to read this some day ... everyone, everyone that I tell about this, experiences it: http://preview.tinyurl.com/knaxbe Watch the small creatures ... they will bring a message for you.
I'll say a prayer for him (and you and your sons, too) tonight just before I go to bed.
Kate, I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words to make it better. I wish I could wrap you in a big comforting hug, make you some coffee and just let you talk/cry for as long as you needed. Be strong my friend and be well. Big Hugs!!
I am so sorry, I love you all. I am sorry that I live across the country because I would be right over to cook, clean, walk the dog and wash all the big comforters. Mecha
There are no words for this time, Kate. Just know that you are loved, and we send along our thoughts and prayers for strength and comfort at this time.
Oh Kate. This is the third person in my sphere – plus a horse – in less than two weeks. And right now, the only one that matters. Will keep lifting you up in prayer; have no regrets.
Kate- I found you through Karen @This Old House. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. He is gone way too soon. God bless you in these upcoming days and weeks and months- xo Diana
Kate- I found you through Karen @This Old House. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. He is gone way too soon. God bless you in these upcoming days and weeks and months- xo Diana
Yes, Breathe. My heart just hurts for you, and for the ache that presses down on you. I'm so very, very sorry for this loss. I am holding you and your family in my heart, and in the light. Grace and peace to you, dear Kate.
Kate, I've never commented on your blog before, but am today to say that I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you can feel all of the virtual hugs that are being sent your way. Pat Young from MN
Kate, we haven't met in blogland, I hopped to you from Texwisgirl, my sympathy, hugs and caring thoughts from down under in New Zealand.We share, care, love and support a friend, maybe one we might never meet, but our love travels the miles. Jean. NZ.
Ohhh, dear CG ~ Here I am ... one more person letting you know you are not alone and that many positive thoughts & prayers are winging their way out into the universe for you & yours.
Thinking of you Kate, And prayers for you all too. There are no words, I agree, when one experiences a deep deep loss.
May God go with you all, and Bless you. The Lord make his face to shine upon you and be gracious unto you. The Lord lift up the light of his countenance upon you
So sorry for your loss.....sending you a hug and some prayers for comfort. You were so good to him and he knew you loved him so and he loved you too.....those thoughts and memories will bring you love now and for years to come.
I've been dreading this post since I started following you. I'm so sorry Kate. You WILL get through this, however hard it is to breathe now. A battle is over as well as his wonderful life. My heart goes out to you. You will find words and I look forward to them. With all love from Em. xx
Dear Kate: I'm sitting here crying. I'm so sad for you. I know the journey you've been on for the past years, and I've always been in awe of your strength...and your outlook on life.
Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I can't even imagine... xo Donna
I hope you will find comfort in the beautiful stories and pictures you show here on the blog. They tell a story of the love(s) you shared. Blessings to you Kind regards Tessa
My heart aches for you and your family. I wish for you peace in this trying time.
Have you ever heard of Rescue Remedy? It's a holistic product you can get at health food stores and, when a few drops are added to their water, it helps to relieve anxiety in pets. I'm sure George is feeling this great loss, as well. May I be so bold as to suggest you put some of Andrew's dirty clothes out where he can nestle in them and smell his scent? It may help with his grieving process, too.
I'm profoundly sorry for your loss. xoxoxo Carolynn A Glowing Ember
The tears I am crying right now are for you and the loss of your man.
You could not have told me before I started blogging that I would have become attached to people on the internet. I would have said you are crazy and meant it.
I cannot tell you how sorry I am. This is breaking my heart and I cannot imagine what it is doing to yours.
Dearest Kate, I knew there was a reason why I visited you first this morning. I only wish it wasn't this reason. When I recently found your blog, I knew instantly by the way you wrote about the love and compassion you had for your husband, that I had to continue reading. Maybe it was because I was going down the same path with my father that I felt a connection to you and your words. I lost my father on Sept. 2 and I can only imagine the pain you must be feeling today losing your husband. I want you to know how much I'm thinking about you and your family and that you will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you can feel the hug I'm sending you. If you want to talk or cry on a shoulder, I am here. xo
Dearest Kate - in my experience, words can't be found...for a long time, if ever. It's been almost two years and I still struggle to remember to breath and find myself gulping deep draughts of air to replenish my stricken body. There's no time frame; it takes as long as it takes and it's different for all of us. I found life went better when I didn't struggle with the grief but let it wash over me, around me, through me. It's still a part of my daily existence but its control is weakening...thank God.
Recently, on my blog I wrote, "When Joy, his wife, died, C. S. Lewis wrote in A Grief Observed, "Her absence is the sky and spread over everything." O dear God, how this strikes me at my core! Lewis also wrote, "When I lay these questions before God I get no answer. But a rather special sort of 'No answer.' It is not the locked door. It is more like a silent, certainly not uncompassionate, gaze. As though He shook His head not in refusal but waiving the question. Like, 'Peace, child; you don't understand.'"
Selfishly, I wish I didn't have any inkling of what you're going through. But that's selfish and I do and my heart breaks for you, now and in the days, weeks, months to come. You are tucked into holy prayer.
Dear Kate, I have been remiss in my blog following due to health and family issues but you and others have recently crossed my mind. And today, you have crossed my heart and I was drawn to you. May you find comfort in all the hugs stretched out to you always and especially at this difficult time. Love and peace to you, Helene
I'm very sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. You were the best wife and partner anyone could ask for! Your love carried him through his disease and prolonged his time with you and your boys.
I went to noon mass in DC today - I'm not Catholic but after the craziness of the past few months and particularly yesterday's shootings, I felt the need to be in a church. I lifted you up in prayer.
I have read your comments on CBW's blog many times and just wanted to say that I am sorry for your loss and you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Karen, I’m very sorry for your terrible loss. I know from personal experience, how difficult it is to see your loved one suffer and to stand by and be able to do nothing(or very little) to comfort him/her. And, I know that there is just a tiny bit of relief in knowing that your loved one will suffer no longer. I hope you can let the beautiful memories of your husband sustain you. My thoughts are with you.
I dreaded opening your blog recently, with the fear that I would learn of your husband's passing. What a beautiful tribute to him. His 2 best loves. You, and Maine. Blessings to you, your boys and George. xo
You don't know me, but I have come here via Hilary, via Karen, because there is a chain of love and kindness linking to you in the blog world. I am so very sorry. May you feel peace and love now and in the coming days.
I came here via Hilary. I am saying a prayer for you. Hurt becomes a bit less with time, the sun will shine sometime again. This is not to deny your feelings of loss - let them flow - but to assure you that it will get better. Please keep that healing thought in mind. You will find the truth of it in a while.
I'm so sorry for your loss, although words are a small comfort during this season, My prayers to you and your family that time may ease your pain. ~Cindy
Please know that you are in many caring people's thoughts... We will all be thinking of you and trying to lift you from your heartache ... Much love your way...xxxxxx
Kate, I imagine all of us who regularly read your blog have tears in our eyes and lumps in our throats. This seemed so quick after you took your leave of absence. Oh, my. I wish all your readers were in the room with you right now. I am so sorry.
As you make your way through these painful days, know that you are loved by many. My prayer for you is for many supportive friends to hold you up in the darkest of times and smile with you as the clouds part; comfort from memories of adventures, celebrations and love shared; but most of all peace and contentment in this new life you will make for yourself.
My dear, dear girl. You don't need any words - just thankful for the years you had together and the loving care you gave him to the end. Bless you - I am thinking of you.
Kate, when someone I loved very dearly passed away, I found a message in this hymn. I hope that it will also bring you comfort. Hold on to your memories, as they will make your journey a little lighter. Take care.
In the bulb there is a flower; in the seed, an apple tree; in cocoons, a hidden promise: butterflies will soon be free! In the cold and snow of winter there's a spring that waits to be, unrevealed until its season, something God alone can see.
There's a song in every silence, seeking word and melody; there's a dawn in every darkness, bringing hope to you and me. From the past will come the future; what it holds, a mystery, unrevealed until its season, something God alone can see.
In our end is our beginning; in our time, infinity; in our doubt there is believing; in our life, eternity. In our death, a resurrection; at the last, a victory, unrevealed until its season, something God alone can see.
Kate, there are no adequate words. I was thinking of you on Monday as it was the 40th anniversay of my own mother's death at the young age of 44. She too died as the result of a brain tumour. My friend Marilyn, who left the message directly above mine, alerted me to your loss. Love, hugs and blessings to you and your family.
please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. My heart breaks for you during this difficult time. Thinking of your family and wish I had some wise words to say, but I don't.
Take care, and know you are not alone in your grief.
I'm so so sorry for your loss. There are no words. Only one breath, one step, one moment at a time. May the Lord bless you and keep you and give you peace during this difficult time.
The bustle in a house The morning after death Is solemnest of industries Enacted upon earth - The sweeping up the heart And putting love away We shall not want to use again Until eternity. Emily Dickinson My heart aches for you.
My thoughts and prayers are with you Kate. I've been following you for a long time but not sure I've ever posted...yet, still, somehow feel like I've known you for a long time. Hugs to you. Kate
hi Kate, I am one of your readers from the Philippines. I found your interesting blog and I loved it. I love country, I love nature and I love great pictures you've taken. Honestly, I was shocked when I saw your post...I'm so sorry! I've been out from checking blogs and I just returned...I never thought of this...I hope you will be okay soon and God bless you and your family...Stay strong, we all love you!
I'm very sorry for the pain you are experiencing, nothing will make it better but time. And don't be strong! Cry, wail, throw things, scream, let it out and let it exhaust you. Releasing and expressing it is the only way to let it move through and lessen. Let other people take care of you, this is a strength too. Its ok to fall apart for a while. Hold George and just breathe. My thoughts are with you.
I have been feeling sorry for myself this past week because my headaches have been flaring up and I thought I was going to have to start having spinal taps again. A good friend told me there is always someone who's troubles are worse than my own and to never fret over what was bothering me. She had been right so many times, a spinal tap is nothing to be feeling sorry about. To lose someone special in your life, yeah, my problems are petty. May you find your inner peace in the memories you two shared...You deserve that much.
Dear Kate, I have been reading your blog for several years and am so very sorry for your loss. A widow myself now for almost 6 years, what I know is this: you learn to bear the unbearable. The sharp, stabbing pain will "soften". It never really goes away but as it softens, the beautiful memories you have of the life you and your husband shared will flood your heart and mind. There he will live again and those memories will help sustain you. Bless you as you mourn your husband and may time bring acceptance and peace.
I am so sorry to be so late with this comment. You are right ....there are NO words. I am so sorry, Kate--and I am praying for you and your family. I just have no words, either --others have been so eloquent with theirs! Please, take care of you!
I'm so sorry. There are no words. Sending you and Andrew positive, brilliant, healing energy. And many hugs to you, your sons, and George as you work through this. Yes, just breathe, one breath after another.
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Oh, Kate. I'm so, so sorry for your loss. I hope you will find comfort in wonderful memories and the love you shared with your husband. Blessings to you.
You were so good to him, Kate - may you find comfort in knowing his time on this earth was enriched by your love and support straight through till his passing.
I'm so sorry, Kate. No words right now. You need time. God bless. Hugs, Deb
My deepest sympathy. May good memories carry you these next hard days. You have so many who are holding in their hearts.
I am so very, very sorry for your loss! My heart breaks for you! Prayers and blessings for you and your family!
Dear Kate,
I am so sorry for you loss....praying for you and your family in your time of sorrow. May you be surrounded with love and comfort sweet lady.
So sorry to hear this. There are no words to convey the hole such a loss leaves. Love to you and your boys. Take care of yourself.
Oh my dear! I thought of you so much yesterday. I send you love and love and love. As you say, the trick is to keep breathing. And let all the hugs in. No more words, just holding you in my thoughts K xxxx
Kate, I am so very sorry.
I am so sorry for your loss. Words always seem inadequate, but know that my family will be holding you and yours in prayer for strength, peace and wisdom in the days ahead.
Oh Kate, I am so very sorry. I am sending you my best thoughts for comfort. Please let others help you, take care of you, and give you whatever you need to ease your pain during this time. I am sure your husband is resting in peace and you were there for him, showing your love, until it was time for him to go. xoxo
We are so sorry for your loss . Sending hugs and love from all of us here . No more words , just breath . xxoo
I am so sorry for your loss Kate.
Kate, I don't know what to say except that I am holding you and the boys up in prayer.
I am so sorry Kate, prayers to you and your boys.
I am so so sorry.
What can I do to help ?
XO,
JC
Neither do I Kate. There are none. Sending gentle, endless hugs from Down Under. ♥♥♥♥♥♥
Your friend
BB/Amanda
My heart aches for you. I'm so sorry.
The sorrow must seem crushing. Prayers and hugs to you and your sons and George as well. What a void he must have left.
DEAR KATE
All my loveALOHA.
SO Fond of you. Wish I could be nearer by.
i am so very, very sorry. bless you and your family.
My heart is crying for you and for your husband. Too young to go. I am just so sorry, Kate. Sending much love to you and your sons.
I am so sorry.
I am thinking of you and your family.
http://thisoldhousetoo.blogspot.com/2013/09/for-kate.html
So, so sorry. Praying that God will hold you tightly and comfort your heart.
Kate, I am so sorry for your loss, you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
So, so sorry Kate. I have come to love you and your husband, the rest of your family, and, of course, sweet George, through my visits here sharing,it all with us. I am humbled,that you are still sharing. Please absorb all the love being left here.
((((((Kate)))))),
I'm so sorry. I just ache for you and your sons. Too soon ... way too soon.
You will be blessed for the care and the love you showed him during his next steps. One day, that will bring you comfort ... you did what you had to do and you did what he needed/deserved.
Pay attention over the next few days ... he will find a way to let you know that he made it safely to the other side. You might want to read this some day ... everyone, everyone that I tell about this, experiences it: http://preview.tinyurl.com/knaxbe Watch the small creatures ... they will bring a message for you.
I'll say a prayer for him (and you and your sons, too) tonight just before I go to bed.
Blessings. Love. Hugs.
Barb
Oh Kate I am so sorry. I lost my dear sweet husband on May 30TH and I feel your pain. Marian
My deepest sympathies. Mary Ann
So sorry. Take care of yourself.
Dawn
dmg314
Thinking of you and your boys!
xo Kat
Oh Kate I am so sorry. I lost my dear sweet husband on May 30TH and I feel your pain. Marian
You and your family are in my heart and in my prayers.
{{{{{{}}}}}}}
We all love you Kate.
Been thinking about you so much lately. So sorry for your loss, but glad that your husband is no longer suffering.
Love and hugs.
You may not have words but you have love...from him & from us. Sending you peace & healing...in your own time...xxoo
Kate, I am so sorry for your loss. There are no words to make it better. I wish I could wrap you in a big comforting hug, make you some coffee and just let you talk/cry for as long as you needed. Be strong my friend and be well. Big Hugs!!
You're very loved by all who know you. Wishing you and your family the strength to get through such a difficult time. Hugs, dear one.
I am so sorry, I love you all. I am sorry that I live across the country because I would be right over to cook, clean, walk the dog and wash all the big comforters. Mecha
I am so sorry for your loss. No words can take away what you and your family are experiencing. May you find comfort in the little things. Blessings.
so very sorry for your loss kate ... holding you and your
family close to my heart
Offering prayers of support for you and your family.
I'm so sorry....
There are no words.
Jen
http://crazyasaloom.blogspot.com/2013/09/for-kate_16.html
So sorry my friend - your grace is astonishing, and I admire you so much. Love and prayers for you and your sons.
I am so sorry. I only know you through your words and pictures, but I am sending many hugs and prayers your way.
What a comfort I am sure you were to your husband. Prayers for peace and strength for you and your family.
http://ourtreasuredabode.blogspot.com/2013/09/for-kate.html
There are no words for this time, Kate. Just know that you are loved, and we send along our thoughts and prayers for strength and comfort at this time.
Hugs,
Nellie
Oh Kate. This is the third person in my sphere – plus a horse – in less than two weeks. And right now, the only one that matters. Will keep lifting you up in prayer; have no regrets.
Oh my lord... Sending you prayers of love and light. He is in a better place. Much love to you Kate. xoxo
Kate, my sweet friend, I am so sorry! Thoughts and prayers for you, your sons, George, and both of your families. xo
There are times when there are no words. I'm so sorry. Sending you hugs and love. xoxo
I'm so sorry, Kate....
Dear Kate, my sincere condolences to you and your family.
kate, i just sent you an email.....xoxo
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your family Kate.
So sorry for your loss.
Kate- I found you through Karen @This Old House. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. He is gone way too soon. God bless you in these upcoming days and weeks and months- xo Diana
Kate- I found you through Karen @This Old House. I am so very, very sorry for your loss. He is gone way too soon. God bless you in these upcoming days and weeks and months- xo Diana
Yes, Breathe. My heart just hurts for you, and for the ache that presses down on you. I'm so very, very sorry for this loss. I am holding you and your family in my heart, and in the light. Grace and peace to you, dear Kate.
http://thesmittenimage.blogspot.ca/2013/09/for-kate.html
I can't fathom this. I am so deeply sorry Kate.
bless you.
For-Kate
Some days there are just no words... the beauty of life is that some day the words and beauty will come again.
Hugs!
Kate,
I've never commented on your blog before, but am today to say that I am so sorry for your loss. I hope that you can feel all of the virtual hugs that are being sent your way.
Pat Young from MN
Kate,
I am so sorry for your loss. We are all sending hugs and love your way. Stay strong.
~chris
My deepest sympathy to you and your family
I am sorry I have no words. Hugs
http://ravenhush.blogspot.ca/2013/09/for-kate.html
Kate, we haven't met in blogland, I hopped to you from Texwisgirl, my sympathy, hugs and caring thoughts from down under in New Zealand.We share, care, love and support a friend, maybe one we might never meet, but our love travels the miles. Jean. NZ.
Oh Kate i'am so sorry.... yes, there are no words... but let me add my support for you here with all the others..... deb
Thinking of you at this time of sorrow. We are all still here for you. Take care of yourself. Love Stella Ann
Oh.....so sad to read this. You are right, there are no words. Sending hugs. Christie
Ohhh, dear CG ~
Here I am ... one more person letting you know you are not alone and that many positive thoughts & prayers are winging their way out into the universe for you & yours.
And here's this MASSIVE HUG, too.
xo
Oh Kate, so very sorry to read this. You and your puppy will be in my thoughts tonight.
Dear, dear Kate, sending love and healing wishes – you are all in my thoughts.
My deepest sympathies.
RW & SK
My thoughts and prayers are with you and your loved ones.
Linda
Oh my dear friend - I am so very sorry! Sending you love and hugs!
Prayers and my deepest sympathy
tears are flowing for you & your family right now. prayers flowing also ... and hugs. I'm so sorry for your loss.
My heartfelt sympathy to you all Kate, that's all you can do...just breathe...
xxx
Please accept my most heartfelt sympathies.
Sending many thoughts and prayers your way during this difficult time, Kate,
XO,
Jane
Much, much love.
Kate, my heart goes out to your and your family. May you find comfort in your loving memories.
A lovely idea so here is my nature gift for you Kate xxx http://thecatalanway.blogspot.com.es/2013/09/for-kate_17.html
I am so sorry.
May God grant you His peace and comfort as you grieve.
Thinking of you and sending love and prayers your way.
Thinking of you Kate, And prayers for you all too.
There are no words, I agree, when one experiences a deep deep loss.
May God go with you all,
and Bless you.
The Lord make his face to shine upon you
and be gracious unto you.
The Lord lift up the light of his countenance upon you
and give you His Peace.
Oh Kate. May you find comfort in your beautiful memories and the promises of heaven.
sending a virtual hug
I am so sorry for your loss. Sending many virtual hugs!
So sorry for your loss.....sending you a hug and some prayers for comfort. You were so good to him and he knew you loved him so and he loved you too.....those thoughts and memories will bring you love now and for years to come.
My eyes are full of tears. I'm so sorry Kate. I'm sending you a big hug from Michigan. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
Lynda in Michigan.
I've been dreading this post since I started following you. I'm so sorry Kate. You WILL get through this, however hard it is to breathe now. A battle is over as well as his wonderful life. My heart goes out to you. You will find words and I look forward to them. With all love from Em. xx
Bless you sweet one. Sending love across many miles.
Jackie devon U.K. Xx
I left some flowers for you on my blog post tonight Kate.
Dear Kate:
I'm sitting here crying. I'm so sad for you. I know the journey you've been on for the past years, and I've always been in awe of your strength...and your outlook on life.
Please know that you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers. I can't even imagine...
xo
Donna
I'm so terribly sorry. May you find strength for the days ahead.
Missy
Dear Kate, I am so sorry for your loss.
I hope you will find comfort in the beautiful stories and pictures you show here on the blog.
They tell a story of the love(s) you shared.
Blessings to you
Kind regards Tessa
Oh Kate, no words...condolences and wishes for comfort and strength. ♥
Dearest Kate,
My heart aches for you and your family. I wish for you peace in this trying time.
Have you ever heard of Rescue Remedy? It's a holistic product you can get at health food stores and, when a few drops are added to their water, it helps to relieve anxiety in pets. I'm sure George is feeling this great loss, as well. May I be so bold as to suggest you put some of Andrew's dirty clothes out where he can nestle in them and smell his scent? It may help with his grieving process, too.
I'm profoundly sorry for your loss. xoxoxo
Carolynn
A Glowing Ember
The tears I am crying right now are for you and the loss of your man.
You could not have told me before I started blogging that I would have become attached to people on the internet. I would have said you are crazy and meant it.
I cannot tell you how sorry I am. This is breaking my heart and I cannot imagine what it is doing to yours.
Ramona
My deepest sympathies to you and your family.
Cindy
Dearest Kate,
I knew there was a reason why I visited you first this morning. I only wish it wasn't this reason. When I recently found your blog, I knew instantly by the way you wrote about the love and compassion you had for your husband, that I had to continue reading. Maybe it was because I was going down the same path with my father that I felt a connection to you and your words. I lost my father on Sept. 2 and I can only imagine the pain you must be feeling today losing your husband.
I want you to know how much I'm thinking about you and your family and that you will continue to be in my thoughts and prayers. I hope you can feel the hug I'm sending you.
If you want to talk or cry on a shoulder, I am here. xo
Sarah
Dearest Kate - in my experience, words can't be found...for a long time, if ever. It's been almost two years and I still struggle to remember to breath and find myself gulping deep draughts of air to replenish my stricken body.
There's no time frame; it takes as long as it takes and it's different for all of us. I found life went better when I didn't struggle with the grief but let it wash over me, around me, through me. It's still a part of my daily existence but its control is weakening...thank God.
Recently, on my blog I wrote, "When Joy, his wife, died, C. S. Lewis wrote in A Grief Observed, "Her absence is the sky and spread over everything." O dear God, how this strikes me at my core! Lewis also wrote, "When I lay these questions before God I get no answer. But a rather special sort of 'No answer.' It is not the locked door. It is more like a silent, certainly not uncompassionate, gaze. As though He shook His head not in refusal but waiving the question. Like, 'Peace, child; you don't understand.'"
Selfishly, I wish I didn't have any inkling of what you're going through. But that's selfish and I do and my heart breaks for you, now and in the days, weeks, months to come.
You are tucked into holy prayer.
Oh Kate, I'm so very sorry for your loss. All my best to you and your family during this sad time.
your in my prayers, so sorry for your lose.
Dear Kate,
I only know you through your heart-felt writing on your blog and through your lovely photos.
I'm so very sorry... keep writing, keep talking about your love.
Lee Anna
I cannot express how sad I feel for you. May you find comfort.
Dear Kate, I have been remiss in my blog following due to health and family issues but you and others have recently crossed my mind. And today, you have crossed my heart and I was drawn to you. May you find comfort in all the hugs stretched out to you always and especially at this difficult time. Love and peace to you, Helene
I'm so very sorry for your loss. Blessings and Love to you and your family.
Marie
I'm very sorry for your loss. I will keep you and your family in my thoughts and prayers. You were the best wife and partner anyone could ask for! Your love carried him through his disease and prolonged his time with you and your boys.
As so many have said here before me, there are no words. May you find moments of peace and be comforted by much love.
Your blog is so beautiful!
Bless your heart.
I went to noon mass in DC today - I'm not Catholic but after the craziness of the past few months and particularly yesterday's shootings, I felt the need to be in a church. I lifted you up in prayer.
Also? This Old House Too sent me here to leave you this:
http://www.soupisnotafingerfood.com/2013/09/for-kate.html
I also have a shortage of words. Just know that your invisible friends are all supporting you in spirit.
May comfort find you in many ways, many times in the coming days...
I am so very sorry. I wish you peace.
No words are necessary; the pictures say it all. My sincere condolences.
I am so sorry for your loss. Came here from TexWisGirl and Buttons. I hope the love you receive from your many friends will bring you comfort.
Peace and grace, Tina.
Kate, I am so sorry for the loss of your dear husband. You and your family will be in my thoughts and prayers.
There are no words. Prayers of peace for you and your sons, Kate. And you're right, just breathe.
I have read your comments on CBW's blog many times and just wanted to say that I am sorry for your loss and you and your family are in my thoughts and prayers.
Words do not matter. May you feel his love surround you in your grief. Just breathe and know you are loved.
Karen, I’m very sorry for your terrible loss. I know from personal experience, how difficult it is to see your loved one suffer and to stand by and be able to do nothing(or very little) to comfort him/her. And, I know that there is just a tiny bit of relief in knowing that your loved one will suffer no longer. I hope you can let the beautiful memories of your husband sustain you. My thoughts are with you.
I'm also so sorry for your loss.JD
I dreaded opening your blog recently, with the fear that I would learn of your husband's passing.
What a beautiful tribute to him. His 2 best loves. You, and Maine.
Blessings to you, your boys and George.
xo
Oh Kate ... There are no words...... I'm so sorry......
Fondly, Rain
Kate, I am so sorry for your loss. You had an amazing life with your husband. Hugs and prayers for you during this time. Susie
I'm so, so sorry, Kate.
I cam here from Hilary's blog.
My deepest and most sincere condolences...
Jackie
You don't know me, but I have come here via Hilary, via Karen, because there is a chain of love and kindness linking to you in the blog world.
I am so very sorry. May you feel peace and love now and in the coming days.
http://spokalulu.wordpress.com/2013/09/17/for-kate/
I came here via Hilary. I am saying a prayer for you. Hurt becomes a bit less with time, the sun will shine sometime again. This is not to deny your feelings of loss - let them flow - but to assure you that it will get better. Please keep that healing thought in mind. You will find the truth of it in a while.
http://rain-myfarmonthehill.blogspot.com/?m=1
For Kate........ From the coast of Maine.........
You are in my thoughts Kate, I am so sorry for your pain and loss. It has been so clear, for years, how much love the two of you shared.
Oh Kate I'm so sorry .
Sending you prayers, strength and heart felt condolences.
dear kate
i am so sorry for your loss.
hugs and prayers for you during this time, regina
I'm so sorry for your loss, although words are a small comfort during this season, My prayers to you and your family that time may ease your pain.
~Cindy
Dear Kate , Sorry for your loss , you and your family has my prayers and sympathy .
Nee
Please know that you are in many caring people's thoughts...
We will all be thinking of you and trying to lift you from your heartache ...
Much love your way...xxxxxx
Kate, I imagine all of us who regularly read your blog have tears in our eyes and lumps in our throats. This seemed so quick after you took your leave of absence. Oh, my. I wish all your readers were in the room with you right now. I am so sorry.
I am a frequent visitor but don't often comment. I'm so very sorry for your loss. May your memories bring you peace and comfort.
So sorry for your loss, I am sending prayers for your family.
thinking of you and your family..
at a lost for words
Holding you all in the Light~
I am so sorry for your loss.
So, so sorry...
So very sorry Kate. Go hug your sons because that's where your husband is.
Oh, Kate, I am so sorry to hear of your loss. Take comfort with your sons and your family and your friends. My sincerest sympathy.
I'm sorry to hear - so, so sorry.
http://omgweboughtthefarm.blogspot.com/2013/09/for-kate.html
I am so sorry for your loss, Kate. Hugs to you and prayers for you and your family.
Donna in Colorado
Oh, Honey! I am so sorry! HUGS!
Linda
http://coloradofarmlife.wordpress.com
http://deltacountyhistoricalsociety.wordpress.com
Sending you hugs, hugs and more hugs!
I am so sorry for your loss. I lost my husband five weeks ago today. Breathe is all you need do for now. Hedy King
So sorry for your loss, Please know you are in my thoughts and prayers
I am so sorry for your loss. May you give yourself permission to grieve and breathe and do whatever you need to tend to yourself.
Such loving photos. Such beautiful life. I wish you peace, and I am sorry.
The Lord bless you and keep you and give you strength. So sorry for your loss.
V
Take care.
I'm so sorry Kate. Thinking of you and your family, and George and hoping you find comfort with each other and your memories.
Andrea
Kate,
As you make your way through these painful days, know that you are loved by many. My prayer for you is for many supportive friends to hold you up in the darkest of times and smile with you as the clouds part; comfort from memories of adventures, celebrations and love shared; but most of all peace and contentment in this new life you will make for yourself.
So sorry for your loss.
Twyla
My dear, dear girl. You don't need any words - just thankful for the years you had together and the loving care you gave him to the end.
Bless you - I am thinking of you.
Praying praying praying for you Kate. Sending loving thoughts constantly.
For you, Kate.... xox
http://www.dianecaytonhakey.com/2013/09/for-kate.html
I am so very sorry for your loss. Prayers are lifted for your peace and comfort as you grieve.
Kate, when someone I loved very dearly passed away, I found a message in this hymn. I hope that it will also bring you comfort. Hold on to your memories, as they will make your journey a little lighter. Take care.
In the bulb there is a flower;
in the seed, an apple tree;
in cocoons, a hidden promise:
butterflies will soon be free!
In the cold and snow of winter
there's a spring that waits to be,
unrevealed until its season,
something God alone can see.
There's a song in every silence,
seeking word and melody;
there's a dawn in every darkness,
bringing hope to you and me.
From the past will come the future; what it holds, a mystery,
unrevealed until its season,
something God alone can see.
In our end is our beginning;
in our time, infinity;
in our doubt there is believing;
in our life, eternity.
In our death, a resurrection;
at the last, a victory,
unrevealed until its season,
something God alone can see.
Kate, there are no adequate words. I was thinking of you on Monday as it was the 40th anniversay of my own mother's death at the young age of 44. She too died as the result of a brain tumour. My friend Marilyn, who left the message directly above mine, alerted me to your loss. Love, hugs and blessings to you and your family.
please know you are in my thoughts and prayers. My heart breaks for you during this difficult time. Thinking of your family and wish I had some wise words to say, but I don't.
Take care, and know you are not alone in your grief.
Thoughts, prayers and all the strenght I can send this way. I'm so sorry!
All my love to you and your family, Kate.
xoxo
I'm so so sorry for your loss. There are no words. Only one breath, one step, one moment at a time. May the Lord bless you and keep you and give you peace during this difficult time.
The bustle in a house
The morning after death
Is solemnest of industries
Enacted upon earth -
The sweeping up the heart
And putting love away
We shall not want to use again
Until eternity.
Emily Dickinson
My heart aches for you.
{{{hug}}}
Dear Kate,
I am so deeply sorry for your loss.
My thoughts and prayers are with you Kate. I've been following you for a long time but not sure I've ever posted...yet, still, somehow feel like I've known you for a long time. Hugs to you.
Kate
hi Kate, I am one of your readers from the Philippines. I found your interesting blog and I loved it. I love country, I love nature and I love great pictures you've taken. Honestly, I was shocked when I saw your post...I'm so sorry! I've been out from checking blogs and I just returned...I never thought of this...I hope you will be okay soon and God bless you and your family...Stay strong, we all love you!
I am so sorry. God bless you, Kate.
I'm very sorry for the pain you are experiencing, nothing will make it better but time.
And don't be strong! Cry, wail, throw things, scream, let it out and let it exhaust you. Releasing and expressing it is the only way to let it move through and lessen. Let other people take care of you, this is a strength too. Its ok to fall apart for a while. Hold George and just breathe. My thoughts are with you.
I am so sorry to learn about your loss...there are no words, plenty of pictures, more memories. Be good to yourself...hug George. Best wishes, Laura
Heartbreaking news, hugs for you all.
So sorry for your loss.
I have been feeling sorry for myself this past week because my headaches have been flaring up and I thought I was going to have to start having spinal taps again.
A good friend told me there is always someone who's troubles are worse than my own and to never fret over what was bothering me. She had been right so many times, a spinal tap is nothing to be feeling sorry about.
To lose someone special in your life, yeah, my problems are petty. May you find your inner peace in the memories you two shared...You deserve that much.
I think of you often. Im so sorry. I'm so glad you took your leave of absence to have that precious time with him. Love.
Dear Kate, I have been reading your blog for several years and am so very sorry for your loss. A widow myself now for almost 6 years, what I know is this: you learn to bear the unbearable. The sharp, stabbing pain will "soften". It never really goes away but as it softens, the beautiful memories you have of the life you and your husband shared will flood your heart and mind. There he will live again and those memories will help sustain you. Bless you as you mourn your husband and may time bring acceptance and peace.
I am so sorry to be so late with this comment. You are right ....there are NO words. I am so sorry, Kate--and I am praying for you and your family. I just have no words, either --others have been so eloquent with theirs! Please, take care of you!
Love and Memories..........May they bring you...........PEACE
God be with you now and always.
Sending many many prayers your way, and virtual hugs. <3 <3 <3
So very sorry for your loss.
I'm so sorry. There are no words. Sending you and Andrew positive, brilliant, healing energy. And many hugs to you, your sons, and George as you work through this. Yes, just breathe, one breath after another.
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